Whew, this is a hard one. I realized the other day I spend a great deal of time trying to redirect my thoughts, my words and my actions.
I guess it's human nature to complain, feel sorry for ourselves, be negative instead of positive, get stuck in the problems. Or maybe that's just my nature, LOL!
But lately I've been trying harder to keep a reign on those tendencies. To turn every worry into prayer. Every negative thought into a positive spin.
Things like when my husband asked me to buy an accordion file for the office and the one I found was different than the one he had (which was falling apart), my first thought was: "He won't like it. He never likes what I get. I'll tell him, 'I knew you wouldn't like it.' " But I quickly lassoed the thought into, "If it's not what he needs, I'll just exchange it. I want him to have what he really likes."
Or when Brady was making a dam for a trickle of water using his foot and I started fussing, I pulled myself back and thought, Wait, why am I against this? And I found out there was no good reason.
Or when I'm tired, don't feel well, am frazzled or dealing with a rough day Brady's had, I have to pull myself out of the moment and say, "Hey, I'm lucky in so many ways. If there's a problem, I need to fix it and be in the solution. If not, I'll quit complaining and wallowing and move on."
This is not an easy thing. I didn't have to do this so much when I was on Paxil. Now that I'm completely free of it, I see life as it is and it is messy. But it's mostly good. And when it's not, I can get through it.
If you find yourself sliding toward negative thoughts, self-pity, woe-is-me, grouchiness at others, complaints or anything like that, corral it before it takes over. Turn it around. With effort, a person can change the way they think, feel, act and speak. I am proof of that.
It's not easy, but it's worth it and I'm finding life is so much better when I do that.
- ► 2017 (53)
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- Finally, some rain in Kansas
- Super easy & tasty crockpot "refried" beans
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- There's no magic answer, no magic pill, only life
- Changing words, deeds, thoughts every day
- My garden: Why I love dirt on my hands
- My first guest post! "10 Simple Ways to Save Money"
- As a parent, stop and think why you say "No"
- We're ready for summer at the office!
- More Freebies in my mailbox. Yippee!
- Teaching tool: Prize Store becomes Reading Store
- After Oklahoma, little things don't matter....
- ADHD: Find a parent advocacy center in your state
- Fake choc-peanut butter-banana ice cream, YUM!
- Clover fields in Kansas, how beautiful
- 3 good Thriving Family articles: prayer, marriage,...
- ADHD: What we learned from 2 dogs, Piggie & Banks
- A happy mistake: the reading counts skate party
- In a small town, everyone does double duty
- Funny things Brady says... suspected bad word
- The power of a parent over a child
- My new sayings, about blessings
- Life: Take it one little piece at a time
- Sweet words from my boy on Mom's Day
- What I love about a Christian life
- We finished the stick house!
- Back to cooking and don't waste potato skins!
- Only in a small town... wrong number on Mom's Day...
- 10 things about my Mom & being a Mom
- Parenting: We're in the planting phase
- In pursuit of faith: the scenic route
- The Invention Party was a success!
- Only in a small town... forgotten flower...
- Weight loss: slow and steady work
- Yes ma'am, yes sir: good for all of us
- Free Junie B. Jones book!
- Letting a kid be a kid, I wish!
- Good blog post: when motherhood is hard
- Funny things Brady says... Jase waking up
- Funny things Brady says... chick flicks
- Parenting idea: A child's "pro's" list
- Why we look forward to school year's end...
- You know you're in the country... baby squirrels...
- Grace under pressure, it is so hard
- Small town joy, the 59th church sale!
- Keeping the blog real, so God "steal my show"
- You know you're in a small town... grocery tour
- Funny things Brady says ... at doc's office
- Funny things Brady says... party advertising
- A role model at 7 years old? Sheesh!
- Yes Ma'am and Yes Sir, what a good idea!
- Maybe struggling sometimes is okay, even good
- Small towns keep it real and personal
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