We are forgiven.
I want so much to try and reflect this grace as much as I possibly can in my life. Boy oh boy, that's hard when you get your feelings hurt.
From experience, I have a few ideas on how to keep grace when you're angry or hurt.
First and foremost, pray
Prayer not only opens a conduit to God, but it also helps you focus your thoughts. Most of the time I shy away from praying for very specific things (not always, of course), but will instead pray for faith, understanding, grace, strength and wisdom, and for God to help me get through the rough times.
When you're hurt, pray every time you think of the problem and then pray some more. And then pray for whoever did the hurting. Eventually you will find a way to handle it.
Know you can only change you
As I always try to teach Brady, you cannot control other people. God doesn't even control them. That's the point of free will.
But you can control yourself. You can control the things you say and do, how you respond to a situation, how you let yourself feel, and how much power something has over you.
Turn it into a positive
I think one of the most amazing gifts we can have in this life is the ability to turn a negative into a positive. To find motivation in hard lessons. If you can somehow find a kernel of guidance in an unpleasant situation, grab onto that and let it fuel where you go and what you do next.
Fill up with good things
When times are tough, it is the absolute perfect time to practice gratitude. Thank God for the things you are blessed with: your family and friends, a home, a job, health, safety, your church, food on the table, the talents and skills you possess, anything and everything. Focus on those things.
And also fill up with words of positive people. Don't keep what you're feeling inside. Talk to the people you trust. Get advice. Go to church. Talk to your pastor. Read the Bible.
Learn from experience
Forgiveness is hard, but it is so worth it. This doesn't mean you forget or allow something toxic into your life, but you can let go in your heart of whatever the person has done and allow yourself to heal.