Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Bossy or sassy? Let's have a do-over and rephrase

I'm guessing all kids go through a bossy/sassy phase. Ours seems to be lasting for years.

But that's okay. I have a new plan.

When Brady says something in a bossy or sassy way, I try to stay calm, not react too terribly much and just say, "Why don't you rephrase that."

Almost immediately he will say it again in a much nicer way. I feel better too. Instead of getting frustrated, I just don't respond other than to say that same thing every time. And he gets a second chance.

This approach also works with things like running in the house or slamming a door. I tell him, please go back and do that again, this time in the proper/appropriate way. Nobody likes to do stuff over and over, so he starts to get it eventually.

Just a tip from the what-works-our-our-house bin :)

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    1. Good luck! Sometimes they just need a reminder :)

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  2. Know what's funny but that's exactly what I do in my house too with my boys. And sometimes the occasional, "do you forget who you're talking to? I'm not your friend in school!" That works well too. :)

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    1. Hey, that's a good one about the friends! I imagine as they get older respect becomes an issue.

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  3. This is a great strategy. We've been using "try that again please" for a while now and it makes a big difference - gives them a chance to do it right instead of just punishing them when they do it wrong.

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    1. Yes, a second chance to reconsider. Eventually, I hope, it becomes automatic to say it the appropriate way :)

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  4. We use "Try that again" most of the time. Sometimes, if I'm feeling sassy, I just keep saying "Excuse me?" until he gets it right :)

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    1. LOL, yes we feel sassy sometimes too :) Whenever Brady demands something by saying, "I'm hungry!" or "I want ..." I say, "Huh, that's interesting," and he'll immediately remember, "Please may I have something to eat!"

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  5. We use this tip too. Most times it works..

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  6. What a wonderful idea. We struggle with respectful words and I think this is going to be something we implement IMMEDIATELY! I just hope it doesnt create any unwanted tantrums as Jasmyn gets very frustrated and upset easily.

    Thanks for the tip

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    1. It is a very hard thing to teach and takes time, patience, consistency. Whew.

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