I'm guessing all kids go through a bossy/sassy phase. Ours seems to be lasting for years.
But that's okay. I have a new plan.
When Brady says something in a bossy or sassy way, I try to stay calm, not react too terribly much and just say, "Why don't you rephrase that."
Almost immediately he will say it again in a much nicer way. I feel better too. Instead of getting frustrated, I just don't respond other than to say that same thing every time. And he gets a second chance.
This approach also works with things like running in the house or slamming a door. I tell him, please go back and do that again, this time in the proper/appropriate way. Nobody likes to do stuff over and over, so he starts to get it eventually.
Just a tip from the what-works-our-our-house bin :)
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I need to try that. lol
ReplyDeleteIt's working good so far :)
DeleteI will try this. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteGood luck! Sometimes they just need a reminder :)
DeleteKnow what's funny but that's exactly what I do in my house too with my boys. And sometimes the occasional, "do you forget who you're talking to? I'm not your friend in school!" That works well too. :)
ReplyDeleteHey, that's a good one about the friends! I imagine as they get older respect becomes an issue.
Deletegood tip!
ReplyDeleteThanks
DeleteThis is a great strategy. We've been using "try that again please" for a while now and it makes a big difference - gives them a chance to do it right instead of just punishing them when they do it wrong.
ReplyDeleteYes, a second chance to reconsider. Eventually, I hope, it becomes automatic to say it the appropriate way :)
DeleteWe use "Try that again" most of the time. Sometimes, if I'm feeling sassy, I just keep saying "Excuse me?" until he gets it right :)
ReplyDeleteLOL, yes we feel sassy sometimes too :) Whenever Brady demands something by saying, "I'm hungry!" or "I want ..." I say, "Huh, that's interesting," and he'll immediately remember, "Please may I have something to eat!"
DeleteWe use this tip too. Most times it works..
ReplyDeleteIt really does seem to help!
DeleteWhat a wonderful idea. We struggle with respectful words and I think this is going to be something we implement IMMEDIATELY! I just hope it doesnt create any unwanted tantrums as Jasmyn gets very frustrated and upset easily.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the tip
It is a very hard thing to teach and takes time, patience, consistency. Whew.
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